Most of you have read about the young girl in Florida who died after breast surgery recently. She was described as "having it all" -- looks, great personality, brains, friends....co-captain of her cheerleading squad and headed to college and then on to medical school. But before she could pursue those worthy goals, she had to be a perfect 10 -- she needed one more thing to make her closer to perfect -- better breasts. Never mind that all surgery carries with it some risk or that she's only 18, for heaven's sake, with her whole life ahead of her -- and bigger boobs do come with age -- trust me! Whydid she do it???????
What kind of messages are our kids -- in this case, girls, getting from us? Or from our narcissistic society where having huge boobs is a virtue, where plastic surgery on children is paid for by parents and costing the kids their lives! Even if they don't have any surgical complications as this lovely girl had, listen to what some of these girls are saying: "I don't think it has changed my personality, but.... and I feel better about myself!"
WHY??? Because you are now a C cup that will eventually be a EE when you really grow up? Is this some great humanitarian move on your part that makes the world a better place? Is this going to add to your list of accomplishments in your life -- "oh, yeah, in addition to being President of something, I also had a boob job when I was 16."
And the parents are paying for it. The new trend, I understand, is for mom and daugher(s) to have "it" done as a girls' day out! Remember when that meant lunch and shopping??
The women's movement, which none of these girls know about, was suppposed to be about freeing women from the life of doing anything to attract a man. We were supposed to be independent, strong, not relying on our bodies and our "feminine wiles" to win a guy's heart -- or lust -- just to have a man. We're worse off now than we were when Barbara Cleaver wore pearls to clean house! Women do more to themselves and give up more of themselves than they did before the bra burning era.
Girls, wake up. Moms, stop trying to make your daughters into Barbie dolls. For that matter, stop trying to look like Barbie yourself. You are people of worth -- the way you are! Stop mutilating your body so that some guy, who is probably not worth the effort, will notice you. What if someone else gets bigger breasts or a butt reduction or a nose job or an eye job -- will you run back to your favorite plastic surgeon and get something else messed with?
If we, as women, can't accept ourselves the way we are, warts and all, how on earth can we ever expect anyone else to? Is that what we want for our girls -- that they feel they have to be perfect to be worthy? Perfect to warrant and deserve love? Parents, plastic surgeons and everybody else involved in these ridiculous procedures, stop! Let our kids be kids. Let their beautiful natural bodies develop as God created them, not as some template in the good surgeon's catalog of body parts. And ask yourself, as you contemplate allowing your kid to be altered "because everybody is doing it" -- why? And WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS?
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